Firstly,Lets understand what do we mean by standards....some are the aspects that are set by the society for us....and some we set for us ,because we feel some are the foolish laden beliefs for us which are only against our understandings of human feelings.What is the use if,your these so called standards take you away emotionally from your children,family and loved ones.
From Honour Killing to unallowed wills of their children ....do this ,do that....dont do that....we are forced....really forced!!
Parents today are saying that, "bachhe sunte hi nahi hein,hamari kuch chalti hi nahi hey" really sad on behalf of the parents....isn't it??? you might think it .this way but i have a change of opinion,
These are the only parents who also say,"bachon ko padhao,aage badhna bohat jaruri hey,hamare samay mein chalta tha,lekin aaj graduation se kuch nahi hota" Positive right
Think of the children, please think....
how much double standards....are these ofcourse during the good olden days their was no as such competetion during their times,the only focus was start working. . earn, have family children and the routine expected valued life is started. . then keep working like machines till 60...get retired and thats the end of your life pattern..oops their life......CAUSE WE ARE DIFFERENT TODAY,,CIRCUMSTANCES ARE REALLY VERY DIFFERENT.... why are parents have so many unaccomplished dreams?
why are we expected to fulfill these unaccomplished dreams?
Cant we have our own for God sake,,, PLEASE don't misunderstand that i m a person who hates parents.....no not at at all.... but yes i am against their views regarding somethings...
FREEDOM of SPEECH and EXPRESSION...if not available stop telling us. .Government lies we have seen. .But can we stop the hell politics at home please. .You have to get developed ...progressed in your life...When we percieve education,we learn life civlisation,socialisation,evolution,...now a days more hammered one pollution but,,,,the important one which i think is reffering now.... is REVOLUTION....when we learn ,we apply....and when we apply. . . we are not good as children.If parents wish,they will allow and disallow on are breathing,walking talking....
So much of stress for children,we suffocate,,we want peace after so much competetion in outside world,(if you could refer the first blog of my almamater you may get fair idea what stress we go)after coming home parents have tremendous questions,why so late at home,why this not at time....Competetion is for everyone agreed,but atleast give us peace..Few words of wisdom and kindness..Some parents are really understanding but for those who are not,still practise orthodoxy and when they are socialising then out of the blue their words are so diplomatic and politically correct ,,my child has to work,has to grow....isn't it??...please we need Parents not Jailers,.....i really agree with the song "Give me some sunshine,Give me some rain,Give me another chance,,,i wanna Grow up once again" want to grow as free as a bird,as innocent as a baby,as understanding as best buddy,as clear as glass with no double standards. .Suicides of the young are a not just questionable. . But note it 'It is no less then a Crime' . . a child who revolts with parents,kills themselves within..Pleading to you. . ..."Parents its not easy for us to fight and just go to sleep every night,we too think... feel bad,we too cry at late night hours,when you after shouting clear your heart and sleep, we still await,might be muma will come and give a soothing hug,but all in vain,its only pain again" Please parents we need some understanding not double standards,we are your children---and you are our parents ...Why should we bang our brains thinking about neibhouring uncle,aunty Please.....we are sorry for revolting but i guess that is chapter taught correctly to us....by society and yes of course by parents....Thank you but we are spoilt now..See if possible you get trained,domesticated PET CHILDREN. . .
Yup Aarti. I do agree with your views. Now let us take the issue from another side. Parents ask us 'to work hard'. They ask us 'to work More'. Don't you feel that this particular attitude has been stereotaped into the minds of people, today? Its not everytime you can come across such students (FARHAN QURESHI) around. Its only one in a thousand. Students pass their IIT and IIM s with the training of mind and body that they get from their parents. Especially from Indian parents. No one is to be blamed. Every generation has its own differentiated attitude to lookafter the issue. In the past it was that parents never used to care about their children. And this is what you and me hear from our parents. "Mere Time Aisa Kuch Nahi Tha, You Are Lucky", and with regards to your blog today its a case wherein the parents are described to be 'overcaring or forcing'.
ReplyDeleteAt last I believe that there is only two People in My green blue earth who cares about my growth, may that be mental or physical, they are my parents who at times shout, smile.....
This is not at all to offend you. I appreciate your view my Dear friend.
Sandeep Pillai (SANDS)
TRUE....sands....that is the reason why i mentioned the exceptions....THINK OF THOSE WHO ARE DIFFERENT...no one is denying,but one cannot ignore the students who also suicide due to parental pressure for the competetion,I m not the victim ...but ya somewhere have seen orthodoxy,and what could be the situation of the child who cant share their thoughts with their own parents...we need them "SANDS"
ReplyDeletewe really do.....
and thats what i m trying to convey but a bit with agression....kya fayda sands competetion ke liye bachon ko kho do....bacha pyar karne se bhi dare....it isn,t fair....